What I've noticed, though, is that every person I've heard espouse this worldview was straight.
This rule is almost never stated or enforced among queer communities.
Unless you're a terrible person, you probably don't want to trample your ex's heart in the process of nurturing your new flame. And, guess what, your new squeeze—who just might be a nice person! As noted journalist Mary Schmich once said, "don't be reckless with other people's hearts." There's no need to punch an innocent bystander in their tender bits because you've gotten burned or are pining for someone else. If you were the one who got dumped however, we think you have a little more leverage in pursuing your ex's pal; after all s/he didn't want you anymore, right? I don’t care if it’s a casual acquaintance, I don’t care if it’s your best friend in the whole world, and I don’t care who broke up with whom.
If the chemistry is explosive and undeniable, it may be worth the risk. If you were the one who took out the garbage, you might want to go about this is a very. manner so as not to induce window breaking from your ex.
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And a month-long relationship may not even count as a real "ex", but going after the remains of a four year relationship puts you on the bottom of my list and I don't even know you. Boredom/horny Maybe you're in the middle of a dry spell. Your ex is familiar and it won't increase your number at all #recycle. Satisfaction You know you broke up for some reason, but the sex is still damn good.
Lots of people have told me unequivocally that they would never date a friend's ex.
If he cheated on her, he'll cheat on you, regardless of how perfect you think you'll be for him.4. Just because your best friend wants the best for you doesn't mean she wants you to date her ex-boyfriend.
She loves you and wants you to be happy, but if you ultimately want the same, you won't choose dating her recent ex to be your newest source of happiness.